Tuesday, May 27, 2008

The Year of Romance - May!

It's time to think about the romance in our marriages and how we can bring the romance to our marriage, keeping it fresh and balanced. This month, I thought I would go one direction, but while out and about, with my Honey last week and listening to some good music, I was struck by how the words to a song reminded me who I was when we met, how I was living and how far we have come from the teenagers we were.

The song was a Pat Green song called "Wave on Wave". As I listened to part of the song, I thought of what my behavior and habits were at the time I met my husband. I was 16 at the time, he was 18. We were no angels. But, we seemed to bring out the peace in each other. It was an "at home feeling", that made the world a less lonely place. We didn't have God at the center of our dating or marriage for many years. Yet, God was able to bless each of us and even save each of us, from some things that weren't His best for us through each other. I got teary eyed when I realized once again what a gift my husband has been and is to me. I prayed that I would always grow in my ability to love and care for him. I have come lately to realize we can not rest on our laurels of the love we have for each other. But, we have to pray and ask God to help us love the one He gave us in a way that helps them, blesses them, and is fresh, not left overs, not stale.

Having a thankful heart for them is a good start. Praying every day for them, and even asking God to show you how to pray for them is a good start, too!

I guess I want to leave you with the thoughts that 1) God ministers to each of us through our spouses and through us ministers to them! 2) That being grateful and considering the strengths our spouses bring to the marriage makes up for a whole lot! and 3) Pray for them, pray that God would fuel and direct your prayers, and when in doubt pray and give thanks! and 4) even when we were two lost people dating, and later married, all the way to this day - we never approached our relationship with what could he do for me? Or what can she do for me? We both looked to what we could bring to the relationship, NOT what we could get from the relationship.
Now, go! Bless your spouse! Surprise him with something he enjoys that you get no benefit from, something totally unselfish! It will feel great!

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Denise said...

I enjoyed this post, may your marriage be sweetly blessed.

luvmy4sons said...

Agape love...Amen! Thanks for the reminder! Good words of encouragement!

What Does it Mean Anyway? "Free to Fly"...

Well, it's like this: Here are some of the Webster's Dictionary definitions of Free: a : having the legal and political rights of a citizen b : enjoying civil and political liberty c : enjoying political independence or freedom from outside domination d : enjoying personal freedom : not subject to the control or domination of another2 a : not determined by anything beyond its own nature or being : choosing or capable of choosing for itself...having a scope not restricted by qualification 7 a : not obstructed, restricted, or impeded ...Now, here are some of the Webster's Dictionary definitions of Fly:1 a : to move in or pass through the air with wings b : to move through the air or before the wind or through outer space c : to float, wave, or soar in the air ... a : to take flight ...6 : to work successfully ...Examples which apply from Websters: fly high : to be elated - fly in the face of or fly in the teeth of : to stand or act forthrightly or brazenly in defiance or contradiction of

What does this mean in my life? This means that in life we are meant to be free. While historically mankind has not always enjoyed the opportunity to fully appreciate what that means, we are so indescribably fortunate as to live in a time of the greatest spiritual, physical, financial and political freedom ever known. Freedom doesn't come cheap, nor does it come easy. But the best things in life don't come that way do they? As I write this I am struck by how this sounds like a political statement, and for me this is much more of a spiritual thing, but, same goes for that (political that is). Freedom doesn't come easy. And it's worth whatever fight you have to make to overcome in your life in order to live a life that succeeds. Now the questions is - what is success for you? What is your standard? In my mind what is needed is a definite target - because you can't hit and maintain a moving target. A stable, rock-solid, anchor with no variable, yet multi-faceted. Something pure, just and worthy. If you look at any web page of news you can see that our society is certainly lacking in this area. What a great time to live as a rebel! Nowadays to be a rebel, all you have to do is be willing to engage in the battle of life, while anchored to Christ!